Wedding Tip or Trick of the Week

Have the Wedding of Your Life

The cake, the flowers, the DJ, the coordinator, the caterer, the photographer - the list goes on. People calling you, expecting details and answers to questions you didn't yet know existed. The job of "bride-to-be" feels never ending.

It's so easy to let the excited little girl inside you slip away under the mountain of to-do lists.

So how do you get the wedding of your dreams planned without nearly going crazy? How do you enjoy this time with your soon-to-be-husband without fighting more now than you ever have?

The obvious answers jump out: prioritize, categorize, organize and outsource. Not bad ideas or plans, but incomplete in and of themselves.

Yes, those are helpful ways to get it done. But I'm talking about getting back the dreamy excitement you had when you were age seven (or 12 or 25). How do you get her to resurface?

Part one of the answer may seem too simple: dream.

The answer to the chaos is to dream. Let yourself slip into the wonderland of mile high cakes and pretty bridesmaid's dresses. Wander in a land of garden ceremonies and twinkle lit dinner receptions. But don't get lost, yet, there's still part two of the answer.

Reconnect with your first love, then take him on the journey with you.

Plan a night to reminisce over your engagement, your courtship or the start of this adventure you two have set upon. As you do actively seek to discover what you both look forward to about the day it all comes together. You'll soon find that even though he could care less if there were pink roses or star gazer lilies in your center pieces, he may deeply care that during the ceremony you two take communion together or that the rings be exchanged in unique and meaningful way.

As you find common ground, take note of where you land together then make a list (yes, there is a list involved) and focus your time and energy on the things that matter most to you both. You may discover a united excitement of choreographing your first dance together that would have been missed under the pile of other details that don't mean quite as much to you. Hand the rest of those details to a trusted source - a coordinator or your maid of honor. You can do it. And if you do, I promise that the most important day of your life will a day you treasure forever - before it, during and forever after.

Blessings,
Christine Lee Smith